Easing Separation Anxiety: A Gentle Guide for Parents and Toddlers Starting Daycare 

Starting daycare is a significant milestone for both toddlers and their parents. While it’s a time filled with excitement as little ones begin their early learning journey, it can also bring about feelings of separation anxiety. This is a natural response for toddlers who are learning to navigate new environments and relationships and for parents who may feel a mix of relief and worry. Fortunately, with a gentle approach and some practical strategies, families can ease the transition and set the stage for a positive daycare experience. 

Understanding Separation Anxiety 

Separation anxiety typically emerges between eight months and two years of age, peaking as toddlers grow more aware of their surroundings and attachments. It’s completely normal for children to feel unsettled when saying goodbye to their primary caregivers, especially when starting daycare. Recognising this as a healthy stage of development can help parents respond with patience and empathy. 

Preparing Before the First Day 

Preparation is key. Begin by talking about daycare in a positive light—describe the fun activities, new friends and caring educators your child will meet. If possible, visit the centre together before their first official day. Let your toddler explore the environment, play with toys and interact with educators. Reading books about starting daycare or childcare can also help normalise the experience and spark discussions about feelings. 

Establishing a Predictable Routine 

Toddlers thrive on routine, as it gives them a sense of security. In the days leading up to daycare, start adjusting your morning routine to mirror what it will look like once daycare begins. This might include waking up at the same time, having breakfast together and packing a special comfort item from home, like a favourite teddy or blanket, to bring along. 

Managing Drop-Offs with Care 

The way you say goodbye matters. Keep goodbyes short, calm and reassuring. Let your child know you’ll be back after a certain event, such as after afternoon tea or playtime. Avoid sneaking out, as this can increase anxiety and mistrust. It’s natural for some tears to flow, but most children settle quickly once engaged in play and activities. 

Supporting Yourself as a Parent 

It’s important for parents to acknowledge their own emotions during this transition. Connecting with other families, sharing experiences, or having a quick yarn with educators can provide reassurance. Remember, you’re not alone—many families experience similar feelings and most children adapt quicker than expected. 

Celebrating Progress 

Every small step your child takes towards independence is worth celebrating. After a successful drop-off or a tear-free day, acknowledge their bravery and resilience. With patience and gentle support, both you and your toddler will soon feel right at home in the daycare community.